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Invest in yourself – don’t wait for your boss to do it!

The Letter - Judith Holmes Drewry

The Letter - Judith Holmes Drewry

Once the domain of the CEO or senior manager, I am seeing people at all levels in small, medium and large organisations coming to me for coaching and paying for it themselves.  Why?  Because they recognise that to survive at work they need to invest in themselves!  So what’s going on?

Today’s workplace is fluid.  One day you are a highly valued employee, the next you are fighting to keep your job.  Change is everywhere and we need to continue to refresh our skills and bring new approaches to the work we do – we need to add value, generate new business, innovate and keep the organisation we work for profitable and valued. 

There was a time when an employee may have expected to receive training, professional development and opportunities for growth from their employer, but in today’s competitive workplace there isn’t always the time or the money to support these ambitions.  There are a number of reasons for this:

  • A small business may be fighting to survive – investing in their employees at present may be a step too far
  • Uncertainty about the future may be making some businesses reluctant to invest in their people
  • A small business may feel that investment in skills development simply isn’t a priority
  • A large organisation facing reduced profits or funding shortages may not be able to justify investing in developing their people

So it may be time to take the matter into your own hands.  And taking time to step outside the workplace to consider your current position, your own development needs and how they may be met could be a smart move.  Here are a few examples of where coaching and mentoring can help with your own development:

  • There has been a change of direction in the leadership of your organisation, which leaves you wondering how you can make an impact and add value
  • You are trying to survive in a shrinking organisation where colleagues have less time available to support each other
  • You are looking for a role in a different industry or with a different employer and need some help in preparing for this
  • You are in a new role and you feel that support from someone outside your organisation would benefit you and improve your performance
  • You are facing redundancy and need help to work out your next steps so that you can achieve financial stability in the short term and plan for the longer term
  • You have work related problems and don’t know how to manage them
  • It may be time to look at your own wellbeing and what you want from life

Having your own coach means you have access to someone who will help you to recognise and build on your own skills and also identify those skills which need developing.  A good coach will listen, ask questions, challenge you and give you time to reflect, draw you own conclusions, set your own goals and help you to achieve them.  Making decisions and facing challenges can be hard and sometimes lonely.  And sometimes dissatisfaction in a role may be because the cultural fit of the place where you work is no longer right - their values and aspirations may not be the same as yours. 

Spending time talking through your options with someone who has no connection with your home or work life can be hugely beneficial and give you time to think and plan how to make those important next steps.

If you’d like more information about how coaching can enable you to take control of your own personal development, then get in touch and let’s talk about how we can help.

Izzy Ixer, Director and Principal Consultant, Blue Pebble Coaching

 

 

 

90 year old talks about resilience

Disused building at Orford Ness, Suffolk - but it's still standing

Disused building at Orford Ness, Suffolk - but it's still standing

By the time most of you read this, the person I was talking with this morning will be 90 years old.  I’ll call her Ann.  Over a cup of tea I asked her a question:

“Why do you think some people are more resilient than others at managing life’s challenges?”

Ann’s answer was very interesting and I’ve captured her responses here:

Understanding and building resilience starts very early in life

 When you are young you hear conversations around you, almost without realising what you are hearing.  You see the way people behave and the way they react to situations.  Friends and relatives around you discuss life issues, the effect they have on people and the way some people manage to get through these issues and overcome adversity.  The culture you find yourself in is a powerful influence and helps you to realise what is possible and achievable in life and how your own resources form a key part of your success.

One of the great influences Ann is talking about is what in today’s language we would call role models.  These are people in your life who you look up to and see as the kind of person you would like to be.  We cam probably all recall someone from our childhood who we remember being influenced by in a positive way and thinking that we would like to be like them when we grow up.     

Observe and take time to reflect on what you see

Ann talked about observing the behaviours you see and “keeping your mouth shut”, which I interpret as taking time to reflect quietly on what you have heard and seen rather than broadcasting it immediately.  The way people tackle life is a great source of learning and this learning forms the bedrock of how we develop over the years.  We start to form a view of whether or not we agree with the way the person went about managing their personal challenges.  And our view may change over time as our own experience of life broadens.

Finding role models is not just for childhood and teenage years though – it can continue throughout your life.  Observing people who you consider to be successful and learning how they got where they are, what survival skills they have and how they sharpen these skills depending on the role they are in is a great way of reflecting on your own strengths and weaknesses.  What is it about them that enabled them to secure that role?  And what can you learn from them?

Absorb your experiences – good and bad

I find Ann’s word “absorb” interesting.  And I think it’s at the heart of our journey towards building resilience.  Good and bad experiences will happen.  We will be caught out one day if we haven’t prepared properly.  We may receive unexpected congratulations and thanks for a job well done.  We are likely to find ourselves “no longer required” in a role, which we’ve given our heart and soul to creating.  An exciting new job or promotion is likely to come our way at some stage in our work life.  The organisation we work for will change into something different with new processes to adapt to or a re-structured team to work with.  These things will happen. 

So it’s a useful strategy to try and accept all experiences equally and to learn from them.  When things are not so good, could we have done something differently and influenced the outcome?  When things went well, how did it happen?  What did we do to prepare ourselves, advertise ourselves, skill ourselves up or influence others?  Take time to accept the situation, absorb the experience, take the learning and be prepared for your next challenge.

Conclusion

Looking at Ann’s 3 observations about resilience, there seems to be one underlying thread.  The words she uses: observe, reflect and absorb.  These have something in common – they are all aspects of the art of disciplining the mind.  Developing the ability to manage the activity of the mind, to speed it up, slow it down, focus it and rest it is a core skill set.  We hear about Mindfulness, meditation, Yoga and other techniques for quietening and mastering the mind.  And there is plenty of research out there on the impact of early influences on the development of resilience in children as well as useful resources to help us learn how to develop our resilience as we grow older too.  And one thing is certain – resilience and adaptability are key skills for today’s world of work.

I enjoyed my cup of tea with Ann and I thanked her for sharing her insights with me.  Inspired by what she said, I have found some further reading sources, which I hope will help you as you look for ways to understand and build your own personal resilience.

The Science of Resilience

Why some children can thrive despite adversity

https://www.gse.harvard.edu/news/uk/15/03/science-resilience

Harvard Business review: 5 ways to Boost your Resilience at Work by Rich Fernandez, June 27 2016

https://wisdomlabs.com/5-ways-to-boost-your-resilience-at-work/

Izzy Ixer, Blue Pebble Coaching